it was lecture by Bill and Dona Mouldins (USA)
Let's egin with some data out of World's Health Organizations overview 2005:
There were 2 sexual diseases in 1960 and they were curable, using antibiotics, iin 1990 there are 20 sexual diseases and some of them are not curable.
It means that we have freedom. It is really easy understand for those who has lived in communistic regime and now enjoy the freedom. Any kind of freedom puts on us responsibility - it means that we have to control our behaviour - and then there are benefits out of our ehavoiur what we have been using in the freedom and the benefits are ethics and morality. Looking from the big picture's view - we have to put limits on our freedom so that we can get benefits, if there is no resposibility there are a lot of problems, as we can see in data.
There are two points of view:
1. there is
No God - it means we believe in evolution and that everything is created by accident
- it means there is no purpose for anything
- if no purpose, no value
- if no value, than person lives his life by accident, bu thinking about life of gusto, life od enlarging, life just for himself
2. There is
God - it means there is creation
- the creation has happen becose it had a purpose
- if there is purpose there is value
- if there is smth valuabled then person lives with purpose and can sacriface smth for others, cause he sees value in others too
God created smth -WHY? so that there would be more to love. His character is loving, so his purpose is to love. The sense of human life is to experience God's love forever. The purpose of family is to teach next generations about God's love, so that they can expirience God's love forever. The purpose of marridge is stable family, who teaches next generations about God's love, so that they can expirience God's love forever. The meaning of sex is to get married and to create stable family, so that next generations would know about God's love, and so that they can expirience God's love forever.
There are
6 benefits of the sex (this is the best part!!!):
KidsPleasureIntimacyit creates amazing
bounding effect, people get really close and loyal to each other like wtite tape/scotch. (really important argument-
You Never Forget the 1st Time...)when you put it once it sticks really strongly, and when you take it of, and then on and of, in the end it doesn't stick any more.. Bounding effect is real, what ever people think, even if they think it is nothing for their emotions or life..
Healthy - stress reducer - happy people live longer
People in time togather also
through good and bad times (i would call it continuety). when I fall in love i say - I am so happy! and then after thre month there is quarrel and I say, i want to stop these relation, cause I am not happy, but Everything goes up and down - after good times come bad times and after bad times comes Good times!!! Sex helps to continu realtionship. If the couple can live through 3 years and not getting to divorce it means that for 20 years they woun't get divorced, when again come bad times.
Talking about addictive stuff for people, anything that could be. With everything doing (drugs, masturbating) the emotions create path in the brains, the stronger emotions the stronger path. It is like, what I remeber better the funeral before ten years or the lecture before three weeks. the meotions in the funeral were stronger than in lecture. So person becomes addictive, to the emotions of doing some thing.
advices for dating (this part was surprising)
See what you are doing and what are your
means in these relationship. If you have read the txt before, than there should be some understanding, that it is important to care the means of the relationships. Boys usually want to date because they want sex but girls want to be valued. If these are purposes, than there can't be normal sustainable relationship between boy and girl.
Make relationships without
romantic thinking. If you will see everywhere romantic, than it is worth to start to think about reality. If in the begining all is started in romantic way with the cute and nice masks on both, then it is not going anywhere.
Keep in safe your
emotional health and spiritual purity.
Take
personality development more important than look (apperiance) of the other person.
man jau draud citiem arī pastāstīt par šiem "dārgumiem", domājams, kasvētdien došos uz vasarsvētku draudzi pie jauniešiem, būs jautri! jāatceras pastāstīt par prezervatīva nozīmi - žogs, aiz kura ir suns (spermatozoīds) un arī slieka (vīrus).. kurš visdrīzāk tiks cauri?
